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Use Comparison as a Wise Mirror Not a Weapon.

When Comparison Is Used Wisely Comparison itself isn’t the enemy. It’s a tool and, like any tool, how you use it makes all the difference. When used with care and wisely, comparison can give you perspective. It actually helps you notice, learn, and grow. What you focus on is key! Narrow it down. Make it useful.

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Jul 103 min read

BeNkd Story #1: Peter Peter is overweight and a new dad. Wants to be fitter and healthier. It never happens He becomes aware of what really matters - family and self-worth. From that, a new identity goal: I am a healthy man. New action habit (his idea: I will only eat when I am sitting at a table. Result - aware when he can eat and stops snacking. Outcomes - weight reduces, goes to the gym more, turns off the TV, plays with his son. Small change. Big shift. A happier man. Based on a real BeNkd client story. Name changed. #BeNkdStories

The Power of Change: Real Stories from Men's Journeys

The men I work with don’t need fixing. They don’t need someone else’s version of success. They need space to feel themselves — physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually — and the safety to trust what they discover and make choices from there. In this blog, I’m sharing real stories from real clients (names changed for privacy). These men made their own decisions, often surprisingly small ones, that led to powerful outcomes.

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Jul 32 min read

What Tantra Is (and Isn’t) - Part Two

Turn up the volume...Below is the video in tiles. Enjoy the day you create. Martin

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May 121 min read

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What Tantra Is (and Isn’t) - Part One

If you ask anyone who has never been to a yoga class what yoga is, they’d probably say it’s all about bending, being supple, doing handstands, wearing lycra, being a bit hippy, and for slim people who are health fanatics. The reality is far from that. Yoga is for everyone and anyone. Its practices are based on the eight limbs of yoga, and the asanas, yoga poses, and movement are just one of those limbs. It’s the same with tantra. The reality? For me Tantra is a rich and an

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May 15 min read