Our relationship with pleasure is complicated. You’d think that if something feels good, nourishing and life‑affirming, we would naturally make it a priority. And yet, for many of us, pleasure is one of the first things to be pushed down the list. Not because we don’t want it but because we’ve quietly learnt and been taught that it’s optional, indulgent, or something to get around to later. Later that rarely comes. In reality, it’s not that pleasure disappears from our lives.

Pain is a Teacher: Lessons from My Rib Injury Pain is something most of us try to avoid, hide from, or push through. A recent injury reminded me that pain, whether physical or emotional, isn’t just something to “get rid of.” It’s a message, an invitation, and often the first step towards real rehabilitation. Here’s what my rib injury taught me about healing, awareness, and the small steps that genuinely move us forward. The Incident Four weeks ago today, just as I was getting

Understanding Our Sexual Patterns Our patterns around sexual activities are established early in life. For many men, first sexual experiences are secretive, hidden under duvets and shrouded in silence. Being heard is often considered taboo. We learn what type of sex is ‘acceptable’ and ‘normal’ through conversations with friends and influences from family, religion, and even pornography. These factors shape our sexual patterns and attitudes. The focus often leans towards Dest

Understanding Our Relationship with Numbers We often let numbers—age, weight, salary, height, and even how much we can lift—shape our sense of self and worth. We don’t just see the number; we attach meaning to it, layering on judgments about who we are. Is benching 100kg, being over six foot, or hitting a certain salary about your value as a man? Or is it just a number? Numbers Are Everywhere Age. Weight. Height. How many miles you run. The calories in your breakfast. The mon

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When Comparison Is Used Wisely Comparison itself isn’t the enemy. It’s a tool and, like any tool, how you use it makes all the difference. When used with care and wisely, comparison can give you perspective. It actually helps you notice, learn, and grow. What you focus on is key! Narrow it down. Make it useful.

The men I work with don’t need fixing. They don’t need someone else’s version of success. They need space to feel themselves — physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually — and the safety to trust what they discover and make choices from there. In this blog, I’m sharing real stories from real clients (names changed for privacy). These men made their own decisions, often surprisingly small ones, that led to powerful outcomes.

Turn up the volume...Below is the video in tiles. Enjoy the day you create. Martin

If you ask anyone who has never been to a yoga class what yoga is, they’d probably say it’s all about bending, being supple, doing handstands, wearing lycra, being a bit hippy, and for slim people who are health fanatics. The reality is far from that. Yoga is for everyone and anyone. Its practices are based on the eight limbs of yoga, and the asanas, yoga poses, and movement are just one of those limbs. It’s the same with tantra. The reality? For me Tantra is a rich and an

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